4/21/2008

~*~ Life..University..Marriage..and FAITH.. ~*~

Salam Alikom BeautifuL PeoPple..How are you?..good..mooOOdy?..sad?..HapPYY..I hope!
confused?...lazy..?sleepY...HypEr..?need a Break?.. then Read My Post & EnjOoOY : D


When I started training at my hospital..I and some of my friends realized how much we miss being students..

We were tired working and wanted to go back to the university

طبعا مش حبا في الدراسة مع إنه الدراسة لها حلاوتها أحيانا بس حبا في جمعة البنات والسوالف والمناقشات والمزح والتذكير والتنبيه والقصص والدعم المعنوي

and i was thinking about the reason why we all missed uni and i found out that we all go through problems and difficulties in our life..ofcourse..not all of our problems are serious..elhamdu Allah..we are in beautiful blessings but still we have our own problems...sometimes it i hard..sometimes it is a piece of cake

Any ways..so i realized we all, i guess, see university as our carrier..as the sponge that absorbs all the difficulties..we talk..we laugh..we tease each other and we forget or TRY to forget our problems...

I feel we are like a sponge that holds soooooo much water and is near to explode and we come to our university and shrink loooool :D we remove the water..we remove the StrESsssss..the pain..

We energize ourselves to change our MoOOoD, to give us stregnth to continue life and handle our problems and in other times, we go to uni to run away from our problems, we indulge in the laughing and fun StuFff and we forget about the problems for few hours..

I will graduate this year and honestly..I can't imagine my life without uni life..without my 5 special friends..things will be different..i know it..but this is life..right?

Anyways..i have been talking to some people and these are the advices I have Heard about Marriage Life..EnjOoy ; )

1. Don't Spoil Your partner..in other words..do things moderatly..with balance..do not Exaggerate at the beginning with ur care and attention and then after years of marriage and few kids..u do not have time to do the same things u used to do...this way u will make ur partner feel neglected or senses a change in ur attitude..u know..and besides..if you overdo somethings..for example..if u tell people how much u care about them every day..it is nice but it mght lose its meaning or Special Effect over time..but if u say it when u really feal it and in special occasions..it will have a Glamorous effect..so be WisSE..and BALANCccccccED

2. Don't Expect TOO much from your partner..well..i guess this goes for all the people we are dealing with right..?even friends... like if ur partner is not romantic or not a very helping person..u can start with ur self..u say nice words..u help him/her.... and whenever u do or say something..try to bring it out from YOUR HEART..try to MEAN IT and be loyal about it..and do not expect a thank you or appreciation..ofcourse i am not saying it is easy but i found out that men, i mean the ones that i know, do appreciate their wives deeds but not necessarly talk about it infront of them..sad but true :D and sometimes we have to take the first step and we hope that our actions and words will touch and influence the other person to do the same over time...

As I said..what i mentioned can be applied even in ur relationships with ur friends..i am not saying these are good advices but things to condsider..let me know what u think..do you think those are good advices..or bad ones? why..? Do u have any other advices?

أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وأشهد أن محمد عبده ورسوله

نسيت أقول شي ثاني
اللهم اجعلني خيرا مما يظنون واغفر لي ما لا يعلمون
طبعا في شي يزعجبني جدا للأسف ألا وهو لما الناس يكبروني في عيونهم بالعدسة المكبرة وتيليسكوبهم الخاص ويعطوني أكثر من حقي وقيمتي وحجمي
أقول للأسف لأن بهل الطريقة لما أغلط أو أحاسب نفسي أحس بتأنيب الضمير وإن صورتي غير حقيقية للناس..أحس نوعا ما
بازدواجية في المعايير ووكأني أخدع الناس بصورتي مع إنهم هم الي رسمو هل الصورة بس يمكن كلامي خلاهم يرسمون صورة غلط؟
هل الكلام مش معناته إني ما أشوف نفسي ذو قيمة أو ناجحة أو وأو لكن أتمنى أكون أحسن من ظن الناس فيني وهذا شي بيني وبين رب العالمين

I wish people would not value me more than i deserve cuz i do not want to get a big head :D and be proud..cuz when people think they are on top..they might lose the enthusiasim to being a better person ..a better Muslim..i want them to see me as i am..simply me..to encourgae me if i do good deeds..to inform me when i do wrong deeds or when i take wrong turns..cuz ensha Allah when they inform me..i can take the next "U-Turn" and correct my deed with the help of Allah : )

اللهم ارزقني رضاك ورضا الوالدين في طاعتك والفردوس الأعلى من الجنة
اللهم ارزقني الحكمة وفقهني في الدين وزدنا علما واجعل في قلبي نورا وبصرينورا وفي عقلي نورا وزردني إيمانا وارزقني حبك وحب من يحبك وحب عملا يقربنا إلى حبك يا ذا الجلال والإكرام اللهم آمييين ^___^
اللهم ارزقني حسن الخاتمة واغفر لي خطاياي وتب على إنت أنت التواب الرحيم اللهم آمييييييييييين

5 comments:

Bookworm said...

Oh la la, advice about marriage, eh? ;)
But what you said is right, this can be applied to any relationship. Being sincere is one of the most important things - no matter what you say or do it's always going to show whether you're genuine in your feelings or just 'pretending'.

Ahh, graduating..it does feel weird, doesn't it? Time seems to have just flown - it feels like we just started the other day!
Now that graduation is nearing, I'm starting to miss the old campus more than ever..
I guess we will only realize that we've grown older and that uni is kicking us out when it's the last day.

Good luck with everything sweets!

Anonymous said...

nice blog, r u member in mahjoob.com

^__^

Spring Blend said...

Ahlan Booky:

feels weird and streSSful >_<

best wishes sis and thanx :)

HelLo Anonymous:

Thanx..and no i am not a member ^_^

Anonymous said...

hey sis i reli enjoyed reading yer blog .. oo i think ur a gd girl and so friendly masha allah

i will keep ur blog in my fav :D
god bless ya :)

Spring Blend said...

Hello Sara

SOooooo Nice to see a stranger`s name ^_________^

Thanx for your nice comment..u made me HapPPy :D

hope to see ya around ; )

Best wishes