8/05/2008

~&~ThE 7 HaBitS Of HigHly EffeCtiVe FaMiliesS~&~

HELllllllllOOOOOOOOoooooooo :D

soooooooo...listeeen peoPle..cuz i am going to talk about something very interesting today..actually i am always interesting..but today even more........ just kidding :D

any ways..

These are some quotes from one of the BeauTiful and Beneficial BoOks I have been reading and still am.. its called:


"The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Families"

Families Not People..cuz thats another Book people !!!

so here are some quotes...and then i wanna discuss some matters with u..ok? ...okaYY

Quote #1:

(The average child spends 7 hours a day watching T.V and 5 MINITUES WITH DAD!!!!!)
so..let us talk about this..how many hours do u spend with ur fmaily..with ur dad and mom and brothers n sisters?

sometimes when u come and count the words u speak out with them..it comes to hi..hello..how r u..what did you do today...r u hungry? and thats it!!!...ScaRyYY..isn't it?

Have you tried ever to sit and give 1/2 hour or one hour of ur time to ur dad or mom..just to ask them about their lives..to listen to them rather than to be listened? to make them feel u wanna know some details of their lives just because they matter to YOU and you LOVE Them..?

Trust me..our parents have had many adventures :D just sit and EnjOy and make them feel u care by ur actions..not only that..ask about thei dreams..their goals..beleive me..they still have dreams and goals..!!! ..life is not only about YOU :D

not only that..look at how our behavior will affect the childrne in the future..we are letting them to watch TV everyday for several hours..WE ARE GIVING THEM PERMISSION ..!! THEY ARE CONTORLING US..NOT WE?...THERE IS SOMEHTING WRONG IN THIS FORMULA..PARENTS NEED TO WAKE UP..TO SET LIMITS..IN THE FUTURE..OUR CHILDREN MIGHT TREAT THEIR OWN CHILDREN THE WYA WE TEACHED THEM..WHAT KIND OF GENERALTIONS ARE YOU WILLING TO BUILD?

one of the beauTiful ExpreSsions i lOoVeD in this book is

Quotes # 2:

" The Spirit is one of being equally yOked together"

The books also mentions about:

(The Miracle Of The Chinese BAMBOO TREE)

The Author says that when ever we do something..we should WAIT & be Patient to See The Results like this AmaZinG BamBOo Tree..when u plant the seeds...u see NoTHING..ABsoluteLy NOthInG!!!..for 4 years..u see nothing but a smaaal, tiny shoot coming out of a bublb..but during those 4 years..the growth is invisible..the roots are massivley growing under the ground and spreads deep and wide in the earth..

AND

IN THE FIFTH YEAR..THIS AMAZING CHINESE BAMBOO TREE GROWNS UP TO EIGHTY FEET....!!!!!!!! AMZING..SPLEEEEEEEEENDID..ISN'T IT? :D :D ..sub7an Allah

do u know what this means??????

it means whenever u do soemthing good to ur self..family...whenever u plan and take an action...don't rush to see the results..whenever u have a dream..a goal..a wish....work for it..pray...and wait...

when ever you take initiative to apologize or make things better ..to reform someone you love..don't be discourages if you see ResistanCe..DON"T GIVE UPp..Try Again and Again..try different approches...

sometimes..we wish for somethign sooo badly..for years..we think about it..we aim to reach it..and most importantly..we WORk UPON it..for exmaple..let us suppose u wanna be the most famous writer..for years..u read boOks..u write novels and in the newspaper...u run here n there..but no one recognizes u!!!.. and suddenly..after years of effort..patience..and tawakol 3la Allah sunhanah o t3alah...something haPPens..that changes all that..u meet someone who can help u..or u find a better joB..so be PaTienT.. please ^___^

also..sometimes when u do some good for people..u mgiht not see the results now..but in the future..the gooness comes back to u..someway or another..

I Love This BambOooTree ^__________^

author says and pls read
careuflly...!

Quotes # 3:

"Patience is faith in action, its the willingeness TO SUFFER inside SO that OTHERS Can GROW, it reveals LoOvE"

This quote reminds me of all the hard-working parents who suffer and get tired to raise us..to make us HapPy.. : )


Quotes # 4:

(Between Stimulus (ex:WHY don't you love me؟؟؟) and response (ex:cuz ur hair looks like sheeP :D)

,there is a space

In that Sapce lies our FREEDOM & POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE

In our response lies our Growth and our HaPpinEss)

Trust me..think about the above lines..and now think about a situation where u got angry or responsed in a bad manner..perhaps even for a very silly reason..now think about how things would be different or how u could respond differenly because better responses help YOU AS a Human Being to GROW AND rise Above YOuR LEVEl so that u become a better person as u get older...

so next time my friend..think..and i will try to think too..before responding IRRAtionaLLY...!!!

and hey look at this InteresTing Word he uses:

Responsible-->(Response-Able)-->Being able to choose your own Response...!!! SmaRT..isnt' it? :D


~~&&~~ BREAK ~~&&~~

Lemme tell you a joke my brother told me the other day:

There were 3 men praying jama3a next to each other in the mosque..

The first guy asked the second guy: quiiiiiickly quiiiiiiiiickly..i forgot..which rak3a ركعةare we?

The second guy replied: I tooooooold you miliionnnnnnnnns of timmmmmes ..don't taaaaaalk to me during prayer time :@@@@@@@@@@

The third man said loudly (while praying): elhamdu Allah...i didn't talk in the prayer..looooooooooooooooooooooooool

in Persian was more funnYy..Hope u laughed :D

~~&&~~ STORY~~&&~~

two parents were thinking to kick their daughter out of the house if she did not chnage her self..because her presense was distroying the family apart and affecting other members..so one Night..the father was waiting for his daughter to come back home and tell her..(either you make these changes and improvments or ur OUT tomorrow)..

The father brought a card and started to write a list of things she needed to do in order to stay.....he listed and finished ...while he was waiting..he turned the card over..and started to list what changes/iimprovementas HE (the father) would agree to do if the daughter agreed to her changes...!!!

he was in tears when he realized that his list was longer than his daughter`s..!!

So..sometimes..we need to dig inside our selves..to change US..Before we Blame Others or before we Try to change others..

Quotes # 5: and the last for this post

" Problems and circumstances are no longer obstacles that get in the way of the path; they are the PATH"

sometimes we might think that the problems that face us..break us..make us weaker..more Vulnerable..but we as muslims know that everything haPpens for a reason..Allah gave us those problems (Opportunities) to become stronger..to get thawab..to test our patience...those problems are ment to be parts of our lives for a reason..a wise reason..and one day u mgiht appreicate it if not now.. : )


so..i truely..really..strongly..recommend this book PeoPle..it is sooo meaningfull and rich in wisdom and beautiful StoriEs..u learn alot..and it is also a BeauTiful reminder..i mgiht talk about soem of the habits the books talks about..like being proactive..Giving rather than expecting,,having a clear visIon..and so on.زز

let me know what u think..about the issuEs i tlaked about..and whether u have any other recommendations..

oh and yea..yesterday me my sweet friends DimplI+Miracle+BaBy thyme went to uni to get our graduation certificant-not the ceremony yet- then we went to fes ival city and eat launch at 4 loool and we also went to magrudy book shop and i got these books for hamoooDY..soooo cute ..!nice stories and characters..trust me..u will enjoy it too :D


See youuuuuu..and Have FuUn... and i know it was alooooong post..but u kow i LOVE talking :D

Smiiiiiiiiiiiiiiile and be HapPPYyy ; ) ^_____________^

سبحان الله العظيم وبحمده

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi,
It must be a great book! many many wise quites and stories, I'll read it In Sha ALLAH.
nice joke and nice storyyyyyyyyyy
I laugheddddddddddddddddddddd
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:D
long post but sweeeet

Spring Blend said...

HeLlOo Ocean:

yeaah..its very interesting..ofcourse it depends on ur taste but Give it a TrY!

Thanx for paSsing By & 4 ur comment : )

Bookworm said...

Hey there,

Ive read the 7 habbits for eff. ppl, but this is new to me. I really liked what you had to say about it.

I like the thing about the bamboo tree. When I first taught (my first practicum, 2 years ago) I was thinking about it. Whether I would see results of what I did in those kids when theyre all grown up, or if theyd remember me. Of course, I only spent a little time with them, so its highly unlikely, but thats one of the things I love about teaching. And in fact, everything else..doctors, pharmacists, lawyers..and most importantly, friends. Ppl influence each other, and the results sometimes takes time to show.

And about everything happens for a reason..yeah, i totally believe inthat. Its sometimes hard to believe it when you're faced with a great loss, but you just have to be stronger and think of it in other terms.

Great post, marmar.

Spring Blend said...

hey Bookworm

how r u ^_^?

oh..what do u think about The 7 H of Effe PeoplE?..tell me about it cuz i am thinking of reading that one too

and yeah..ur right about the teaching thing..it takes time..but hey look..we still remember some of our lovely or Not very popUlar teachers and how they haVe influenced us..right? ; )

that's why i JuuUsSsT LoOooOooooVE TeachinG.. ^____^

thanx for ur comment dear

Have a lovely week :D