12/23/2008

~*~ Don't Shake My Hand...!!! ~*~

Our universiti's Library..and I KNOWWW..ITS A bEAUTIFUL VIEW :D
Hey PeeeeePOOOoool

so..a while ago, before the Eid.i was in the hospital working...in one of the sections..suddenly i saw a women in our family with a man which later i got to know it was her brother..maybe 45..or 50 years..any ways..so i said Salam and shaked her hand and then said hi to him..and he brought his hand forward to shake mine..!!!!!

i was soo embarSsed..i hold my hand close to me..and said.." oh..umm..emm...i...i ..." loooooool..i did not know how to say it..then his sister said..she does not shake hands ..loool..i mean..shouldn't he be aware of that..?

i told mom..she said oh yeah..he came from America..lool..is that realisitic? i mean yes living in foreign countries can have negative influence..but he is a muslim..and knows the rules..sooo..why exactly did he do that..?
i would like to add that ..living in another country does not necessarly mean forgeTting ur self, ur principles...some people stand Still and stronG in foreign countries..so it really depends on ur personality..ur strength of Faith..ur determination to be a better muslims..whether ur strong enough to fight the negative influence or ur Vulnerable..or whether u were already weak or not Convinced of some of the islamic or cultural principles...

What would u do in such situation..would u shake his hand OuT of embarSsement OR say sorry.. OR what?
any ways..

i dunno if i said this story before here or not..

once Upon a time..one of my infleuntial Iraqi teachers at uni Tested me..

i was in the class with another girl.he came in and said Hiii..i said how r u..he replied Good..or so did i hear..so i said good..(like good to hear that)

after the class began..and the girls were seated..he suddenly said...something like..i tested SprinG Today..she asked me how i was..and I (he) replied not good..and i said good..loooooooool i got soooooooo embarSsed..he taught me a leSson by his test..TO pay more attention next time..to be a better listener..to care more rather than just ask for no purpose..

they say..Allah has given us two ears and one mouth..to listen more than we talk ; )

sometimes..hard or embaRsSng stituations can Teach us aLOOooooT more than Pampered moments or treatment..it will stick to our mind..and maybe..one day we will laugh about it..and learn from it..

have u ever been embarSsed or TesteD?..
i think sometimes testing peoPle properly..show u who they really are..if they realy care or not..if they r nice or not..if they r defensive..weak..strong..confident or not..if they r patient..sensitive..Insistent or Determined enough or not..
also i do not aprove on embarSsing someone badly..it depends..sometims it can have reverse effect..

i miss the university life..my friends..our laughs ^__^ Those were Nice Dreamy DaYys..full of streSs..and FunNy MOoments..
A letter written Du2aa on..i wrote and send with one of my brothers with him to Omra عمرة a while ago ^____^
EnjOoOyY... ; )
سبحانك ربي لك الحمد كما ينبغي لجلال وجهك وعظيم سلطانك
اللهم صلى وسلم وبارك على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين ومن والاه وتبعه بإحسان إلى يوم الدين
اللهم إنك عفو تحب العفو فاعفو عنا ^____^ اللهم آمييييين

7 comments:

Bookworm said...

Uni days were the best I think, with all their ups and downs, laughs and tears.

About the handshaking thing, lol, yeah, he shuda known. I guess tho, nowadays so many ppl are 'ok' with it that guys dont know wat to do anymore, but even tho, that shudnt be the 'default' option, so unless the girl sticks her hand out, dont stick urs out, neh?

And yeah, I was in a similar situation. hehe. I went to the eye doctor with my bro in Munich 2 years ago (we were supposed to do the lasec but the doc told us to wait another year or two). Anyway, after the check up and the huge lecture on why he will not do the lasec on us (we were disappointed) he was like, ok, see you in 2 years time. And he got up, and extended his hand to me. I was O.O uh-uh, this guy doesnt know, how can I tell him, so I just said 'I'm sorry, I don't mean to offend you, but I can't shake hands with men who aren't family' or shay cheh and at the same time, my bro extended his hand and shook the docs..it was awkward, but sho nsawee, I didnt know wat to say.

Anonymous said...

Hi Spring,
nice stories!

TESTING. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I have just been tested! a SHOCKING test! I learned some things, BUT IT WAS DAMN Shocking!!!! Wah :S

when I knew that it had been a test, I thanked Allah.
I was tested to be known more for who tested me, I think. but as you said, tests are useful for both testing and tested persons.

BUT SOMETIMES TESTS HURTS.lool.. We should be careful ^___^

sadia said...

i wouldn't test anyone. atleast not publicly. i wouldn't want to ambarrass anyone and hurt their feeling in the process.

i have had people extend their hands towards me and i've politely declined that i don't shake hands with men. they were muslims themselves so i didn't need to explain why.

Spring Blend said...

Hey BooKy

nowadays so many ppl are 'ok' with it that guys dont know wat to do anymore

I sooooo agree with u on this

loooool..what an embarSsing situation...cuz u had to explain ..but in my case at least he knows..

but Glad u did what u did..cuz i guess some people mgiht out of embaRssment..shake hands or do soemthing wrong..

ThankS for ur CommenT Lady ; )

Hey Ocean:

lool Ocean...GlaD u learned something..otherwise..what is the use of all the trouble..right?

Hope u PasSed

and ur right..we should be careful..otherwise..not very Good things might happen..!!

Thank for ur commenT

Hey Sadia:

Me too..i don't always like to Test people..maybe cuz sometimes i ama fraid to know the result...?!

or maybe i feel i am playing a game..and i shouldn't?

dunno..

Thanks for ur comment sis : )

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